1. Talk about it. You may think you'll never stop hurting.
2. Men, don't fall for the male myth. Being Macho isn't being tough when it really counts. Let others see you grieve.
3. Expect strange physical and emotional experiences. Stress, emotional pain and depression are experienced at different times of our lives - it's part of the journey.
4. Think about your body: like gaining weight - you sink easier; lose weight and you can swim and keep your head above water.
5. Suicidal thoughts are normal, during a prolonged period of depression, it's part of the process. Choose appropriate people to help - ones who listen and help you move on. Like a GP or Counsellor who you are confident with, or approach the local Community Health Service.
6. Invest in your family and friends. Take up a hobby or do a community service as a means of maintaining a high level of usefulness and wellbeing.
7. Later, consider helping others. Sharing your experience may assist in helping others.

Adapted from Nic Fothergill's
"Some Guidelines for Survivors of War"
and thoughts from Bernard Denner,
Centre for Advancement of Men's Health