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Have
dinner ready:
Plan ahead, even the
night before, to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting
him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about
his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of
a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
Prepare yourself:
Take
fifteen minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives home.
Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking.
He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and
a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
Clear
away the clutter:
Make
one last trip through the main part of the house just before your man
arrives, gathering up school books, toys, papers, etc. Then run a dust
cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of
rest and order and it will give you a lift too.
Prepare
the children:
Take
a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small),
comb their hair and, if neccessary, change their clothes. They are little
treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Minimise
all noise:
At
the time of his arrival eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher,
or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see
him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.
Some
dont's:
Don't
greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for
dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through
that day.
Make him comfortable:
Have
him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom.
Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillows and offer
to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing, and pleasant voice.
Allow him to relax - unwind.
Listen
to him:
You
may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is
not the time. Let him talk first. Make the evening his: Never complain
if he does not take you out to dinner or other places of entertainment.
Instead, try to understand his world of stress and pressure, his need
to be home and relax.
The
goal:
Try
to make your home a place of peace and order, where your husband can renew
himself in body and spirit.
Extract from Home Economics Book - 1950 |